In the past several years I have had a lot of life transitions…from failed relationships to new relationships, living on my own, moving back in with family, job changes, career shifts, car accident recovery, self discovery, the list really goes on. As I celebrated Thanksgiving this year, I couldn’t help but think about how much my life has changed and how far I’ve come.
One thing you guys probably know about me by now is that I really try to be transparent and open about where my life is at and what I’m going through. I’ve really been beating myself up lately about my lack of presence with my blogging community and the absence I’ve had from you guys the past couple months. But the truth of it is, I just wasn’t in a space to bring anything valuable here. I was going through yet another life transition- the start of my new job at an amazing fashion tech company- and my focus was on becoming good at my job. Not to say that I don’t value my blog like I do my day job, but I just didn’t have the energy to spread myself so thin. My days are currently 14 hours long with a 2 hour commute doing a job I’ve never done before, so you can only imagine how wiped out I feel by the time I get home.
But as I sat at work (yes work) on Thanksgiving, I couldn’t help but feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude for the craziness my life has brought me these past couple years. I’ve learned a lot about myself- the way I cope, my bad habits, my strengths, my insecurities, my view on relationships, and everything in between. And I realized that being in your 20s is really freaking hard. I may look like I have it all together, but trust me I’m really still trying to figure it all out.
Here are some of the ways I handle transitions to try to keep my feet on the ground amidst life’s craziness:
–Shut it down. Sometimes I just need to be. To feel what I’m feeling, good or bad, and take it one moment at a time. It’s not that I don’t want to connect with my community, friends, social media, etc.- it’s just that when I feel spread so thin, I don’t feel like I have anything valuable to contribute and need some time to recharge my batteries.
–Feel the love. Rely on your support system- boyfriend, family, friends, pets. I know this seems contradictory to my above tactic, but leaning on the people that love me most for support really helps keep me grounded. A simple text during the day or a phone call during my commute home is sometimes all I need to get my daily dose from those I love most.
–R & R. Okay so this one I’m really bad at. I push myself to my limits until I break- whether that’s getting sick, a mini emotional breakdown, or just total exhaustion, I’m trying to get better at pausing for breaks before I hit that point of total destruction. Finding time to unwind and relax will help give the energy to keep going.
–Embrace the change. One of the things I love most about Scott is his motto on life: “It’s all about the experience.” When I start to get frustrated or question what I’m doing, he always reminds me to enjoy the journey and find the positives in every experience. Remember that everything happens for a reason and you are where you are because it’s where you’re meant to be.
How do you stay grounded during times of change and transition? Comment below or send me an email!
I hope you all had an amazing Thanksgiving with your loved ones, and that you all know how much you mean to me.