I went my whole life thinking I would get married at 22, start having babies at 24, and be a full time mom for sure by the age of 30. Not only that, but I would also have my career figured out and a steady source of income to live a comfortable life. But oh how this could not be farther from the truth. Instead, I’ve been married and divorced once, changed jobs multiple times, changed my whole career choice, and have struggled to make ends meet with the constant change of income. And I’ve come to realize that I absolutely love the fact that I’ve changed my mind so many times.
I think while growing up, society puts a pressure on you to figure things out and to try to “have it all.” It’s as if things in the world are just supposed to magically align for you and you’ll get everything right on the first try. But the truth of the matter is, the beauty is in the mess. You probably won’t get it right the first time, you’ll fail, tears will be shed, and obstacles will be thrown at you. Not to be harsh, but that’s just what comes with the territory of life.
If we start looking at changing our minds as part of the process, rather than a punishment, I promise you that you’ll feel completely liberated. Feel miserable at your job? Quit. Is your relationship holding you back or putting you down? Leave. I’m not trying to oversimplify and make it sound as if this is incredibly easy because it’s not. I know that because I’ve done both of those things. But rather than feel like you can’t leave or you can’t quit because you “should” make it work, start thinking about how short life really is. You DESERVE to be happy. Not just content, but really truly happy.
You’ll still have a bad day at work, question what you’re doing, and wonder if the grass is greener somewhere else, but it’s about learning to trust your gut. Learning that it’s okay to change your mind – whether that’s as big as your career or as simple as your sense of style. Not knowing what you want and being on the search to figure it out is a beautiful thing. You learn so much about who you are and what you love when you take risks, embrace change, and jump into the unknown with the faith that it will all work out.
Make the best decision for what you feel in your gut is right at that time, and I promise you that the universe will return the favor by bringing you whatever is right for you at that time. Again, this may not be your forever job, forever friendship, or forever relationship, but it will come into your life for a reason. To teach you something.
So if you needed a sign, I hope this serves as one. You deserve happiness and to wake up everyday smiling. If you haven’t found it yet, keep searching. And know that it’s okay to not know or to try and figure out it’s not right. That’s the wonderful thing about life and about the human mind and body; we have the resilience to get back up and keep pushing forward.
How have you changed your mind and embraced the change in your life? Leave me a comment or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. xx